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2008年4月8日星期二

狀元流鶯:越墮落越快樂


讀到天才兒童蘇菲雅尤索夫 (Sufiah Yusof)已成為英倫香爐人人插的高級妓女新聞時,我想每個人都有不同的感受。

當然第一個感覺是驚駭,接著下來你會扼腕嘆息嗎?你會心碎嗎?

News of The World找到蘇菲雅出來現身說法時,她的剖白更是讓人感到無法接受,具備了膻色腥的因素,這麼戲劇性與大轉彎的人生際遇,讓人追讀不已。

我是在今天的《星報》封面頭條讀到這則新聞,下巴都跌到地上了,看過了原莊版的新聞後,就覺得《星報》刪去了很多露骨的細節。

譬如這段:
"I have men who are thrilled about my passion for mathematics. In fact one made me recite equations while he pleasured me, then I gave him oral sex while he chatted about algebra. It drove him wild."

(事實上有一個客戶在服待我時讓我唸出一個方程式,之後他在談到代數時我為他口交,這使到他更狂野。)

還有這段:
「she says. "I've always had a high sex drive—and now I'm getting all the sex I want—and guys are much better in bed with an escort than a girlfriend. 」

(我一直都有很強烈的性慾─現在我得到我要的性愛─而男人在床上對一名應召女郎好過對女朋友。)


由于對這則新聞太感興趣了,我在《星洲日報》也追讀這則中譯本的新聞,荒謬的是這家大報將蘇菲雅憶述她的初下海的男人時的那一段「Sufiah said the first client was a “lovely man” in his late 20s, tall and handsome.」譯成「她聲稱其第一個顧客是一名比她年長約20歲、長得大且英俊的“可愛男生”,他們在希爾頓酒店的酒吧見面,然後上房享受了一個美妙的性經驗」

「接近三十歲」譯成「比她年長約20歲」,這家世界級媒體集團的出版水準真是笑話。

所以,還是不要相信這些沒有水平與擅自為讀者過濾的報章,我就決定上網來自己找這則新聞來讀了。


事實上,若不是蘇菲雅的母親是來自大馬柔佛,恐怕我們也不會群起追讀這則新聞,就是因為她擁有一半大馬人的血統,也算是與大馬有淵源的「子民」。當然,technically來說她已不是大馬人了。

馬來西亞在她13歲時擠進牛津大學時多麼地亢奮與欣喜若狂,以她為榮,如今蘇菲雅成了成為應召女郎時,人人以「操醜業」的字眼或心態來看待她了。

大馬人,你們還硬硬要蘇菲雅認祖歸宗嗎?

如果馬來西亞人,特別是馬來人因為一個帥哥太空人得到升空摘星,回來後被捧為神仙般狂熱地脆拜,蘇菲雅也算了讓大馬揚名海外的「大馬人」,其實馬來西亞在那一剎那被掃入了地獄。

這幾天讀到政府高官的反應時更覺得荒謬,有人發動拯救蘇菲雅的行動,以救世主的姿勢要將蘇菲雅拉出苦海,還以為她是中了降頭。但現在隨著蘇菲雅真情又出人意表的「我自愿做妓」告白後,這些所謂的長官、長輩們是否還有話要說?

還有行動黨的全國主席卡巴星建議,要大馬駐英國最高專員署發動找人行動,然後讓蘇菲雅回來大馬接受「心理治療」時,我看了真的是怪笑不已。人人都認為蘇菲雅是瘋了。

她真的瘋了嗎?

我不覺得。我覺得蘇菲雅是劃時代的奇葩,足以顛覆社會人士的種種認知觀感。她可能不是第一個最年輕的牛津學生,但她應該是唯一一個天才兒童出身的而自愿下海的妓女。她是這個時代走偏鋒到極端的歷史人物。

當然,她的家庭背景、家庭教育是現今社會家長最大的一個警鐘,你以為兒女早慧、逼他們成龍成鳳就是好事?然而蘇菲雅的故事血淋淋地告訴你:成龍成鳳之後,也可以成為青樓流鶯。

當然,一切尾隨著的就是學術上的討論──怪父母、怪社會、怪整個體制,怪我們慣有的價值觀系統。

你們說:「職業無分貴賤」、「行行出狀元」嗎?那麼狀元流鶯也很低賤嗎?但我們自古以來又說:「笑貧不笑娼」,那麼這種價值觀系統下的共識是否互相抵觸?

只是蘇菲雅那一句話說:. "I hate this stereotype society has of escorts being exploited. It is so far from the truth. (我憎恨這個打上刻板印象的社會)將所有的偽道士都回應得啞口無言。

如果賣淫是一項刑事罪的話,別忘記,淫業是人類歷史上最悠久的刑事罪。

只是我在想,一邊口交做愛, 一邊吟誦數學方程式的情況,到底是怎樣的教人感到亢奮呢?這種畫面像是得獎的藝術電影,或是小電影才會出現的激情畫面,現在讓蘇菲雅給我們上了一堂性教育的課。

同時,蘇菲雅的告白也真的讓一介庸人的我們,開了一個眼界。

至少蘇菲雅不會像「很天真,很傻」的「偽人」天真嬌一樣,這邊廂在銀幕上清純可愛,暗地裡含著巨蕉在陶醉,我們都將這些公眾人物當作「玉女」。又或者我們刻板地都將有腦的女生是林亞珍模樣的呆頭鵝,不諳人事。

更搞笑的是,她卓越的學術背景絲毫也沒有被白費,她說她是帶著數學頭腦來與男人上床,不知道她是否找到怎樣達至性高潮的方程式?

我是很佩服蘇菲雅的勇氣。或許在心裡面是想著:她做到了一些我們不敢做,甚至連想也不敢想的事情。她將一般常人心底裡可能壓抑的慾望,爆發而具體化地演繹起來。

例如我常在街邊看到一對夫妻時,我會猜想,他們都享受彼此的性愛嗎?他們在床上都是彼此所需要的人嗎?他們是我們一般所想的夫妻間行房只是例牌公事,沒床第之歡。

我又是否能像蘇菲雅一樣,如此無懼地 與n個男人上床去咂吸各形各狀的陽具? 追求自己的慾望? 但是,我連付錢到三溫暖或是按摩中心也沒有這樣的膽量 只是在健身中心裡鬼混

蘇菲雅告訴我們的是:她為了爭取自己的人生,而對整個壓抑的體制作出了最勇猛的反撲,不只是抗議她的家庭壓力,還有整個社會的觀感。

而且,她是如此赤裸裸、坦蕩蕩地攤開了自己,為了自己的人生,肉體與軀殼又算得了什麼?她只是要贖回自己的靈魂。

我不知道,婦女權益組織的人怎樣看待蘇菲雅事件──

~說爭取女性的自由、自主權,所以蘇菲雅逃出了家庭的魔掌,只是選擇了迎送生涯;

~喊話說要抗議女性權益被剝削,蘇菲雅做出了自己的選擇;

~抗議娼妓行業、認為這是壓迫女性,但蘇菲雅卻享受著抽送套干陽具時的快活。

另外,其實我也聯想到6年前轟動全國的艷屍案諾麗妲,她在被謀殺後裸屍橫陳,在法庭審訊時牽引出了許多香艷的故事(包括與多名男人性交、遺體肛門證實死前與人肛交),也是馬來西亞這個回教國家的社會在偽裝高雅潔淨、要實行回教法等禁止馬來人來從事不良行為,其實也只是將人性的慾望遮掩在宗教聖袍之下。

而蘇菲雅是否也算是馬來人?她是否也是一名回教徒?但是,我們感受到馬來社會的尷尬了。

我想,如果在本月19日要出發到英國的大馬「拯救團」,已證明大馬人會原諒她。

你說馬來西亞是個封建的國家事實上,我們連一個脫光光偷情做愛的部長都可以「諒解」與忘記,更以選票支持這名部長的兒子代父上陣來當上人民代議士,我們就知道,大馬的社會人士,是很尊重「個人隱私」,也有雙重的社會與道德標準。

只是,對待同志時,是否也有這把寬鬆的尺度?

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附件:
原文的網站是圖文並茂的呈獻出蘇菲雅的訪談,可是有一些裸露畫面可能不適宜公開瀏覽,我就做了一些剪貼工作,將英文版的新聞貼上。


MATHS genius turned hooker Sufiah Yusof reveals how she drives men wild... by reciting EQUATIONS to her clients as they have sex.

Watch her sexy videoshoot and interview

And the Asian beauty defiantly claims that selling her body for up to £1,000 a time provides her with a far more glamorous life than she ever dreamt of when she went to Oxford University aged just 13.

Click here for more pics of Sufiah

"My clients love the fact that I can stimulate their minds AND their bodies," she boasts in a shockingly frank interview with the News of the World.

"And I don't believe my education has been wasted—in fact I usually take problem sheets with me to solve before appointments."

Sufiah decided to CONFESS ALL after we revealed how the former child prodigy was working as a £130-an-hour prostitute while studying for a masters in economics.

It is the latest heartbreaking twist to a life that seemed so full of promise—but went tragically wrong when she cracked under the pressure of her bullying father's cruel academic regime and fled university at 15.

Eight years on, he is now in jail for sexually assaulting two girl pupils and Sufiah has somehow convinced herself that her seedy new career is the answer to all her problems.

"People think escorting is sleazy and terrible but I don't see it like that," she says. "I've always had a high sex drive—and now I'm getting all the sex I want—and guys are much better in bed with an escort than a girlfriend.

"I have men who are thrilled about my passion for mathematics. In fact one made me recite equations while he pleasured me, then I gave him oral sex while he chatted about algebra. It drove him wild."

And brainbox Sufiah has worked out that subtracting your respectability to become a prostitute can equal big money.

"I have a nice life and I am in control," she says. "I hate this stereotype society has of escorts being exploited. It is so far from the truth.

"My clients treat me like a princess. One guy I see in London took me shopping on Bond Street. He bought me a beautiful black Gucci dress for £700 and then took me to Selfridges and told me to pick any handbag I liked."

She chose a £600 Gucci clutch. "I'm a Primark and Topshop girl normally! I felt like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman.

"Later that night we went for dinner. I wore my Gucci dress and sexy lingerie and took great pleasure in peeling it off for him later on back at his hotel."

Sufiah was working as an administrative assistant earning £ 16,000 a year in Manchester when an escort agency boss approached her in a bar four months ago. She'd run up debts of £3,500 in rent arrears and credit cards.

And she was still haunted by her hellish childhood—subjected to her father Farooq's Accelerated Learning Technique where she studied maths day in day out in rooms kept freezing cold to improve her concentration.

So the big rewards the agency boss promised seemed more than tempting. "I have studied so intensely for so many years I wanted to have fun," she says.

She can't see the sordid side of prostitution—and instead likens herself to Belle De Jour—the saucy hooker played by Billie Piper in the TV drama.

"I'd read Belle De Jour's Diary of a London Call Girl and was fascinated," she said. "When this immaculate lady in a designer suit asked if I had ever considered escorting, I found it appealing.

"I went home, researched agencies on the internet and found one I thought looked professional. I sent them photographs and they put me on their site." A couple of days later Sufiah was offered her first client. She recalls: "I felt quite nervous but excited too. I slipped on some black lace underwear and stockings and suspenders and a dress, and just though, ‘Wow, this is thrilling.'

"He was waiting for me at the bar of the Hilton. I expected him to be older but when I saw him he was lovely.

"He was only in his late 20s, tall and handsome. I thought, ‘I can't believe I'm getting paid to have sex with this man.'

"I'd have been thrilled if he chatted me up in a bar. We had a drink then went upstairs to his room and had fantastic sex. I left that night feeling totally elated having had an amazing time with £250 in my purse." Since then, she has built up a base of regular rich clients and sees between five and ten men each week.

Her sugar daddies have treated her to fabulous clothes, designer bags, trips on yachts and even helicopter rides.

Sufiah, whose interview can be seen on video at notw.co.uk, brags that she can earn more than £1,000 in a night by having diner with a client and staying over. "It's like they want to rescue me. One man asked me how much I earned a year. I said £60,000. He told me, ‘I'll pay that amount straight into your bank and buy you a flat and you can be my mistress.'

"But I don't want that because I'm happy doing what I do. Now I wonder if I could go back to a normal relationship, where you watch EastEnders and have boring sex. I've got used to being treated like a princess."

It is as if she has run away from reality—just as she ran away from university and her father's dominance at 15.

Sufiah becomes solemn and subdued when she talks of her upbringing. "As I grew older I began to clash with my father," she says. "He was violent on occasions. Because he pushed me so far academically, I became more confident for a girl of my age. I grew up too quickly.

"From 11, I was studying maths all the time. I didn't have any friends. I wasn't in the Brownies.

My father said they didn't teach Muslim values. I hardly ever played with other children."

She passed her maths A level aged 12 and started at St Hilda's College, Oxford. "It was an amazing place but I was too young. By the time I was 15 I wanted to be in control of my life. I fought back."

Sufiah sparked a two week nationwide police hunt when she ran away instead of going home at the end of term, saying she'd "had enough of 15 years of physical and emotional abuse".

Her father claimed she had been kidnapped and brainwashed by members of a socialist organisation.

But now, speaking about it for the first time, Sufiah says: "I couldn't bear the thought of going home so I ran away. I'd saved up £200 and found a hostel in London for £14 per night. After a week I moved to a hostel in Bournemouth. I knew I could survive on my own."

When she was found in an internet cafe, Sufiah refused to go home and was placed in foster care by Bournemouth social services.

She says: "I stayed with two families who were very good to me. My mum and dad would call me and ask me to go home—but I didn't want to."

Her 50-year-old father is now in jail for 18 months after being convicted of sexually assaulting two 15-year-old girls he taught at his home in Coventry.

When Sufiah reached 18 she returned to Oxford to continue her studies—and fell in love with fellow student Jonathan Marshall. They married a year later but it barely lasted a year.

"At the time I thought we would be together forever, but we married too young and grew apart," she says.

After the split she moved back to London where she taught maths in the evenings to make ends meet. Then six months ago she moved to Manchester—and stumbled across her new career.

"I'm still only young and I can't decide what I want to do," she says. "My escort work provides me with a fabulous life.

"I still enjoy learning and I find it puts me in the right frame of mind for an intelligent conversation with my clients." But she admits not all her sexual encounters work out. "At the end of the day you don't have to sleep with a client if you don't want to. I've done that twice now. Both men were young and very nervous. I just left.

"The dullest client I've ever had was a rich man who talked about cars all night. It was really, really boring."

Sufiah is well aware she could easily find a job in the City where she could match her £60,000 a year sex earnings.

But she said: "I don't want to take anything away from people who do jobs like that but it's not for me. I have a nice life. I don't want for anything."

Her mother Halimahton is now divorcing jailed Farooq and is desperate for her daughter to get in touch with her. "I was shaking when I found out what had become of her," she says.

But talking about her bitter split with her parents, Sufiah says: "I would describe our relationship as estranged.

"I have contact with them occasionally but I couldn't speculate on what they will make of my new life.

"I don't have any regrets. I've never felt more confident about my body and I've had some of the best sex of my life."

7 口禁果:

安东尼刘 說...

对蘇菲雅的行为,我一点也不惊讶或觉得她可耻,我不只能接受,还很支持。只要自己喜欢,又能自己负起全责,为什么不?
其实蘇菲雅事件是很好的一种自我反省。很多人在社会压力和刻板的社会规条下,只会盲目而无奈的跟着规条走,自己心里要的东西或渴望,只要不符合所谓的“社会道德”,就不敢去做去争取。社会规条不应该刻板,更不应该一种规条管百种人。就好像一夫一妻制,社会允许你和你的so called最爱结婚,给你合法的做爱准证,但你永远就只能干这个人,至到你老死。如果你和这个“合法做爱的人”以外的人干,就是背叛,就是没良心,就是反法。但如果你和她/他已经没感情呢?你已经对他/她没有任何性欲望呢?
我不是鼓吹滥交,但我要说的是有些人根本不适合结婚或只能有一个性伴侣。他/她或许要的是和不同的人谈情做爱,他/她才会觉得满足开心,才是他/她想要的,为何不行?
宗教可以帮人,也可以害人。很多宗教只会教你做一个“圣洁”的人,如何驱走内心所谓的“欲望”,因为那是“不干净”的,却没有教你做一个坦荡荡的人,真实的自己。而人类千万年以来都以这个为“做人”目标,盲目而迷信的去执行在自己或别人身上。但是请冷静想一想,为什么你会有“欲望”,那是因为你不满足于现状。只要以“不会伤害到他人”为大前提下,为什么不?看看现在每天都发生的离婚率和情侣出轨事件,就证明很多人不适合“一夫一妻制”,盲目跟从不是伤害更多身边的人吗?!
所以在管制社会时,应该以开放民主,弹性强的规条来配合不同的人格人种。
所以,蘇菲雅没有错,她正常的很。

nicholes 說...

我個人覺得恰當的管制還是需要的。
因為有了一夫一妻的制度,
人類才得以再在當初所承諾的忠誠與專一的
課題上繼續進行反思與關注。
當然,若你無法做到這一點,
就是一種背叛。
除非是雙方都愿意饒恕彼此,
雙方都能灑脫離婚,
要不你依然是“背叛”,
如果你離婚的原因是因為
出現第三者的原因的話。
愛情是雙方的事情,可除非大家都一致不愛了,
要不萬一還有其中一方依然存有愛而
不愿放手的話
你又能怪對方不夠灑脫不懂得坦然面對現實嗎?
人是感情的動物,愛情豈能收放自如呢?
誰對誰錯都早已被一個情字模糊了視線,
也由不得外人來批判對錯是非了。

社會道德的原則固然還是有它維系整個道德的整潔性的功效,是不該也不能被刪除的。人心里講究的良知良能,古代書籍里講究的道德倫理,都是我們作為華人一份子所該追隨的目標。自由是該捍衛,人權也應該獲得尊重,可總不能濫用它們。

愛還是需要負責的。就好比走入婚姻的同志一樣,既然你決定了要過所謂“正常”的生活,你就必須“正常”到底,若非如此,你還是會再繼續造孽。

以不傷害他人為大前提?我倒覺得很難,我們一生中怎麼可能不被傷害過也不曾傷害過他人呢?不管是故意還是無心的皆有。而且可說是頻密的。關鍵在于那傷害的殺傷力大嗎?這些殺傷力是讓你成長還是繼續沉淪呢?

對于那些不適合從一而終的婚姻的人而言,可能他們需要的是很多很多的愛情,所以不斷地往外求,只是他們可否曾考慮過對方是否也與自己一樣,是一個玩得起的玩家呢?大家是否都清楚這個游戲規則呢?

玩不起而硬要玩的人,是活該嗎?

玩得起卻忽然不小心認真起來的人,又怎麼辦呢?

愛,真的可以拿來玩嗎?能玩的可能就不是愛了吧!那是性欲游戲而已。

有人用性來尋覓愛,但幾乎都是失敗收場,一旦沒性趣了就會嫌棄,建立在性的愛豈能天長地久?

也有人覺得要有愛才能有性。
你又如何看法呢?

總的來說我還是覺得愛情是自私的。若真正愛的話絕對不會輕易地就做出背叛對方的行為;若真的不愛的話,之后所做的每一個步驟也還是該謹慎的先想想對方的感受,畢竟那是曾經承諾過要愛一輩子的伴侶,再看有沒有轉彎的余地,畢竟曾經愛過還是要負起該有的責任。向對方坦誠你的變心也是一種責任,盡管會造成傷害,起碼你沒無恥地說慌,你有誠意地道歉,你沒出賣自己的良心,只是愛的方向由不得你駕馭,能不能放過這樣的你就得看你們彼此間的溝通了。

當然這一切都免談,若你們間只是游戲一場。沒有真愛就不會有所謂的責任。因此現代人才選擇以性來取代愛,一種很矛盾的心理狀況就是渴望愛但又不愿意負責任,深怕一旦愛腐爛了失去激情浪漫了會因責任良心問題而糾纏不清,只好用性的親密舉動來偷渡一點愛的味道,好無奈也好可悲啊!

可能蘇菲雅覺得這樣的性泛濫生活很沒什麼問題,只要她喜歡她愿意就好,除非她有本事一輩子瞞着家人,如果萬一像現在這樣曝光了,她的家人情何以堪呢?社會的嚴峻保守價值觀還是會套死他們,蘇菲雅的行為無形對家人來說都是一種傷害,哪怕他的家人最終無奈地包容她,我們活着不只有我們自己本身,還有其他被牽扯的人,有時都該騰出一點空間站在他們的立場上為他們想想的。畢竟我們還是該為親情負責的。

匿名 說...

既然你挑了些翻譯的毛病...
不是哈佛,是牛津

- K

p.s. 祝快樂

Hezt 說...

K:謝謝!馬上修改這個錯字。你的洞察力讓我欽佩。:)

還有謝謝安東尼劉作的補充,我還未說完的感想他都補充了。

Dennis 說...

满亚法师说:
1)异性恋同性恋都一样,凡是“恋”有问题,不该“恋”,要“爱”。

2)有很多人,在不懂得做父母的时候,就已经做了人家的父母。。
(我想,就跟很多人不懂得什么是婚姻的时候,就已经结了婚,是异曲同工的状况。。)

安东尼刘 說...

不用客气,hezt。: )

我觉得能在这里让大家自由发表各种不同的声音是非常好的。现今社会如能像网络般给于不同的空间给不同的人,弹性多一点,那或许就不会有那么多争吵和战斗。

Simon Jim 說...

由大觀小,當年的救援團,竟然和香港富豪對待女兒的婚事般如出一轍。也很欽佩身為女兒的可以將父親的舉動理解成父愛的表現。她會感激父親對她的厚愛,但很顯然的,她不需要,也快樂著。

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